It’s story time again, even if this is just going to be another short skirt story.
Last weekend, my wife and son were gone so I decided to take a trip to McDonald’s for dinner. I’m not a very good cook and I rarely eat fast food, so I figured I would treat myself to some junk food for once.
As usual, I was wearing a skirt and since it was cool and rainy, I wore black tights underneath it. It isn’t unusual for me to wear a skirt out anymore, but it is fairly unusual for me to get a reaction.
Once I got to McDonald’s, I got out of the car, walked into the restaurant and ordered my food using their digital, self-serve screens. By that point, I hadn’t noticed any real reactions. As usual, people looked at me, but not any differently than if I had been wearing pants.
As I was waiting for my order to come up, one of the younger employees walked past me and stopped when she looked down and saw I was wearing a skirt. She asked me if she could ask me a question (which is pretty amusing if you think about it), then when I confirmed she could, she asked me how I work up the confidence to go out in a skirt as a man.
She then proceeded to explain that her younger brother loves wearing skirts and is really into the whole “femboy” scene, but isn’t confident enough to go out in public even though he so badly wants to. My answer was, as I’ve explained in previous posts, that the best way to do it for the first time is to go out with someone who supports you.
I suggested that she should take him out dressed in his skirt to help him build up the courage. She clearly liked the idea and said she would mention it to him, then thanked me about four or five different times.
After that interaction, I got my meal, ate in peace and returned home happy, full and satisfied. It was another small reaction that just confirmed to me that the vast majority of people either don’t care or are curious about your choice to wear a skirt out in public.
It also shows that there are a lot more men out there who would love to do it if it were more normalized. They just lack the confidence to go against the norm and embrace their unique style. That is why it is so important for those of us who have worked up the confidence to go out in public, to do it often and show others that it is perfectly fine.
That’s great, You should have her check out your blog and see some of the replies you get and how other men built up the courage to go out in public for the first time. I am still the only man in a skirt, I have seen a few men in kilts but not skirts. I am ok with that. It doesn’t bother me that I am the only man in a skirt.
I was tempted to have her check out the blog, but I’m not sure speaks English, so it might be difficult… Maybe I need to have some business cards made with the blog that I can hand out to people 😉
Sounds promising that this girl cares enough about his younger brother to actually be in touch with this unusual thing he’s doing. When it comes for the “femboy” scene, I find all these maid-alike stereotype outfits a bit too brave for someone who simply wants to integrate skirt into the attire (or at least I didn’t pick these clothes first when started investigating what it’s all about), but almost every male who goes this way had to start wearing skirt at home in order to proceed to the next level. And the definition of “femboy” is really “liquid”, some talk about the clothes, some about way of thinking or expressing emotions; so if one would ask me about what the hell I’m doing, I definitely prefer simple “I just wear skirt, I’m guy wearing skirt” – as simple as it can be.
I’m still a bit concerned though about “femboy movement” vs. males under 18 years old or teenagers in general – in the end, it’s absolutely not violating any rules that I’m aware of, but I feel like “expectation vs reality” fact-check might be a bit stressful – I can imagine that they will have way less confidence that older guys like you or me who, just like king Mark Bryan, do not care (or not that much) about what others gonna say. So any “unkindness” or simple statement like “I don’t like your outfit” – if ever occurs – will impact teenager way more, even if you have supportive family member or long-time friend right next to you. I think this girl should try to make him aware of that.
I agree that it’s promising that she cares about her younger brother and his “unusual” hobby. But then again, is it really that unusual anymore? If you look at the number of “femboys” on social media anymore, it’s not nearly as uncommon as you’d think. It just seems like it because it’s still not entirely publicly acceptable which is really sad. I started off with a skater skirt as my first skirt when I was much younger (which is what a lot of “femboys” like wearing), but I never really considered myself part of the scene because I never went beyond just the skater skirt.
You’re probably right about teenagers being much more sensitive about criticism. Too much negative criticism could lead to them just giving it up entirely which would be sad. Us older guys need to set an example and show them that it’s just fine! That’s part of my goal with this blog. 🙂
I think one of the problems for younger guys is that their detractors haven’t learnt tolerance and are full of macho bravado which often leads to physical confrontation. For that reason I think it’s important for older guys like me to be out in the public to help normalise skirt wearing. I sometimes see older guys who I’m sure are muttering under their breath but as oldies they’re past the age for confrontation. Most people don’t care that anyone else wears something a bit different.
You’re absolutely right about that. A lot of younger guys just don’t have the tools to handle their emotions in a non-violent way which is something that I always despised. Certainly not everyone is like that, but too many are for it to be really safe for too much deviation from the norm.
What an amazing experience and advice to give her. There are so many guys who wish to dress as they please but who are incarcerated by the man’s manly man uniform of jeans and hoodie. Sadly men aren’t allowed to vary
There really are a lot of guys who are incarcerated by the norms set by toxic members of our gender. Any deviation from boring masculine fashion (if you can really call it “fashion”) is seen as suspicious and is unacceptable. It really is sad!