Since the election in the United States last November, I have received a surprising number of messages and emails asking me to post about my opinion of Trump and his politics, particularly in light of his position on gender since that was both a prominent topic of his campaign and has been a part of his initial slew of executive orders.
While I certainly do have an opinion on the topic, I don’t want to write about it on this blog as I want everyone to feel included, regardless of what part of the political spectrum you come from. As long as you are respectful, I want you to feel welcome here.
That said, I am currently working on a post that will address how transgender rights affect men wearing gender-non-conforming clothing. It will, of course, by nature include some politics, but I will do my best to remain neutral and, when it comes to politics, report on the hard facts (i.e. a piece of legislation was signed into law) rather than anything that might be influenced by opinion.
In any case, I just wanted to post briefly about why I try to stay away from politics on The Beskirted Man and if they are unavoidable, then try to stay as neutral as possible. I hope everyone feels welcome and, if not, feel free to send me a private message and tell me why!
Best to avoid politics in general if you ask me.
But I wonder about the role of transgender rights and even the word “queer” has to do with men who want to wear skirts as men. Frankly, I don’t think either term applies.
Transgender typically involves feelings of gender dysphoria and a desire to be the opposite gender one was assigned at birth. Not to say there aren’t transgendered people on this forum, but I’ve always maintained that there isn’t a definition for men who want to wear skirts as a man. I have no data to support this but my interactions with people here and at the Delphi forums on skirts and leg wear, suggest most are men who just want to wear articles of clothing traditionally associated with women but remain looking and being a man.
The definition of queer: “denoting or relating to a sexual or gender identity that does not correspond to established ideas of sexuality and gender, especially heterosexual norms.” doesn’t fit either. If gender identity was due to the clothes you wear, are all women who wear “boyfriend” inspired clothing queer? All those tie wearing females queer?
There’s nothing wrong with people who are transgendered or queer, I just maintain that those definitions do not define me. I want to remain looking and being a man. I just like wearing a skirt and tights. As a man.
I wonder if the lack of a definition to define men who wear a skirt as a man means people misconstrue us as transgendered or queer. Not insulting. But also not accurate.
” I wonder if the lack of a definition to define men who wear a skirt as a man means people misconstrue us as transgendered or queer. Not insulting. But also not accurate. ” This would be why I am adamant that femboys, and GNC males STOP thinking they need to identify as women, or girls, or other such things when they wear their stuff. The perception and assumptions that we all want to be women, is exasperated by those that play those games thinking it is somehow cute, or something.
Agreed. I don’t know any Femboys but I wonder if they want to be women or just really love the ultra feminine things we associate with the term femboys. I imagine their feelings could be conflicted because there is a notion that one can “freely” wear ultra feminine stuff in public but only if you look female. Hidden under a costume so your true identity remains unknown. Totally guessing here but I suspect they’d rather not have to hide behind a female appearing face and just be themselves in public. But I also suspect when faced with the choice of wearing what you like in public comes down to think you’ll be more comfortable in a costume versus yourself, we all hide.
It’s too bad that these silly gender norms raise such havoc with our comfort and choices
that is one of the reasons I wear skirts all the time, I’m hoping to show that its ok to wear a skirt if they, LBGQT+, if a straight man can they can. Also to show support for them.
Agreed. I don’t know any Femboys but I wonder if they want to be women or just really love the ultra feminine things we associate with the term femboys. I imagine their feelings could be conflicted because there is a notion that one can “freely” wear ultra feminine stuff in public but only if you look female. Hidden under a costume so your true identity remains unknown. Totally guessing here but I suspect they’d rather not have to hide behind a female appearing face and just be themselves in public. But I also suspect when faced with the choice of wearing what you like in public comes down to think you’ll be more comfortable in a costume versus yourself, we all hide.
It’s too bad that these silly gender norms raise such havoc with our comfort and choices
Not sure why it posted twice, sorry!
To reply to Eric though, I think when a straight guy who meets these “heterosexual norms” wears a skirt, it silences the small minded. There’s such a need to label people that some assume not their normal must be {fill in marginalized population here}.
Probably the most common reaction I get from guys when I’m skirted is “wish I had the (courage) to wear that”. That’s telling.
When there is a difference of opinion, and war is not an option, that’s politics. It’s how we work out how to live together when we don’t agree on everything. Alas, we have passed out of that noble situation now. I fear neutral now is akin to silent assent to the hijacking of the republic. I love this country’s founding principles too much to stay neutral when they are violated for the wealth and power of a few self-serving individuals that use fear mongering of ‘others’ to confuse, distract, and steal. What’s that got to do with guys who choose to dress in out-of-the-ordinary ways (i.e., skirts)? Well, remember the poem:
First They Came
– by Pastor Martin Niemöller
First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me.
THat’s what it has to do with guys in skirt.
Wow. That’s a frightening poem. That’s for sharing
Indeed guys who just want to wear dresses, skirts and tights without shaving their face or shrinking their muscles do not have any single-name label. Now, the election results and consequences wouldn’t be that big if people actually cared about themselves mainly and not try to “convert” ones that do not agree. The fact that probably the most important country in the world has 70+ years old president for another time is a bit pathetic and means people up there on top of that pyramid would never understand 20+ or younger guys who want to be really free, and not free in some religious meaning.